I had sex wth my sister's boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 years old. I am writing to you because I have a problem. I came to Kingston and stayed with my sister in December last year. My sister has a boyfriend and we fell in love. I know I shouldn't have anything to do with my sister's boyfriend, but he was so loving and nice. I couldn't resist him. My sister promised my mother that she would give me money to shop for the Christmas. While I was there with her, one week passed and she didn't give me any money to shop, neither she take me shopping. Her boyfriend asked me if she gave me money and I told him no.

My sister sings on a choir and they had rehearsal. He took her to the rehearsal and came back. He asked me if we could have sex. I told him only if he could give me money to shop and he said no problem.

I went to the bathroom and had my shower and he told me he would come back. He went out and came back. He spread a sheet on the carpet and started to make love to me. He poured ice cream on my body and started to lick my body, from my breasts right down to my navel. He put it on himself and I licked him also. I told him he had to use a condom, he said nothing would happen to me, but I told him no. So, he put on the condom and we had sex. I went back into the bathroom. He wrapped up the sheet and took it to his car.

He gave me $10,000, but I gave it back and I told him that he should keep it for me because my sister would want to know where I got money.

My sister finally took me to the store and bought me a few things. The day when I should have left Kingston, I called her boyfriend and he came back to the house. We had sex again and he gave me the money and took me to the bus stop. I don't feel guilty because I love him. My sister is wicked. I did everything for her when I was at her house but she did not buy me nice things. I don't want to take away her boyfriend. I have a boyfriend in the country, but if I can see her boyfriend again I would do the same thing.

My mother asked me if my sister was coming down to visit her and I told her I didn't know but I would like to go back.

Sometimes when I am with my boyfriend, I am thinking about this man. And I love my boyfriend very much, but he doesn't have much to give me. He tries his best. Her boyfriend calls me every week, but I can't let anybody in my family know.

T.H.

Dear T.H.,

You seem to be very proud of yourself. There is no feeling of remorse. I don't need to tell you that you are a bad girl. You know that very well. Your sister thought that you were a good girl, but you have behaved as a viper. You admired her man and you sold yourself to him for Christmas money. And you did so in your sister's home. Her boyfriend is also a wicked man. If he wanted to help you, he could have given you that money and not go to bed with you. And it was only because you insisted that he should use the condom why he did not have unprotected sex with you.

I am hoping that your sister would read your letter and realise that you deceived her and lower your standard by having sex with her man while she was rehearsing for her Christmas programme somewhere. You don't have any shame, and the man does not have any shame.

You should desist immediately from communicating with him. You have a boyfriend and you should stay with him. Leave your sister's boyfriend. Your boyfriend cannot give you as much as this man but you say you love him, so stay with him. Don't come back to your sister's house. You are too wicked.

Your sister's boyfriend will never respect you. He would always consider you as trash. And I hope that something will happen that will cause your sister to leave him.

Pastor