My boyfriend refuses to forget his ex

Dear Pastor,

I need your advice on how to solve a situation that I got myself into. My boyfriend and I have been together for one year and a few months.

He doesn't want to take down his ex-girlfriend's picture from off the dresser. Whenever I ask him to take it down, it becomes a problem.

I visit the house often. I have found it disrespectful, and it seems as if he doesn't care.

I understand that he and his ex-girlfriend had been together for 14 years and were to get married in 2015. However, she got accepted at a university abroad to study for two years, and within a year and a couple of months, she texted him saying that it was unfair to have him waiting for her.

She said she wanted some "me time". Two years have passed, and she hasn't returned. What should I do?

I am looking forward to your response.

K.C.

Dear K.C.,

You and this guy and have been friends for a little more than a year, and you were aware that his fiancEe was studying abroad.

She has only been away for two years, and during that period, he has got involved with you. He has not removed her photograph from his dresser, and although you have requested that he remove it, he has refused to do so.

According to you, the man said that his fiancEe said that she wanted some "me time". If that means that she was suggesting that he should seek another woman and allow her to do whatever she wanted to do for the next two years, he was not prepared to end the relationship with her.

LEAVE IT OR MOVE ON

So, her picture will remain on the dresser. This guy could be trying to say to you that if you don't like to see the picture there, you can move on.

All I can tell you right now is that as far as this man is concerned, the relationship between him and his girlfriend abroad is still alive, and you should be prepared to hear at any time that his woman is back, and therefore, he cannot see you anymore.

Having said the above, let me hasten to say that even when some men's wives are dead, they refuse to get rid of their photographs.

It takes some men a very long time to remove those photographs from the walls or wherever they have them. Even when they have new women in their lives, the old photographs of their wives might very evident.

What I am trying to say is, even if this man is interested in you and the relationship he had with the other woman is dead, don't try to push him to put away the photographs of her.

Pastor