Satan made me sleep with my co-worker

Dear Pastor,
I am 26 years old, and I am having a problem. I have been going with a guy since I was 18. He was the first man for me. He took my virginity. He became a part of my family. Everybody in my family loves him. He is a very helpful man. He has a fairly good education. He treats me well.

When I was going to college, he gave me all the support I needed. We have one child together. We got engaged two years ago. I made a big mistake and I admitted it to him. Now he is telling me that he doesn’t want me in his life anymore. I did something I never thought I would do. The company I work with organised a retreat, and I had to attend. It was just from Friday to Sunday.

One of the guys at my workplace, who likes me and I like him too, attended the seminar. Satan got into my head. This guy and I went out, and we had too much to drink. I wasn’t drunk. I knew what I was doing, but I couldn’t resist this guy. At work, I have ignored him. He has a way of sending roses for me, but I always remind him that I have a man.

I am in such trouble now because as soon as I got back, my fiancé heard that I went out with this guy. All he kept asking me was “did you have sex with him?”, and finally I said: "Yes, but it wasn’t for long." He said: "All right, I am not going to hit you, but we have to part." I have never gone on my knees to beg a man, but I went down on my knees for him to forgive me and to give me another chance, but he wouldn’t.

To make matters worse, he went and told my parents what happened and my father cursed me. My mother begged him to forgive me, but my father said that he should leave me and let the man I had sex with take care of me.

Pastor, this man gave me a beautiful engagement ring. He told me that I can keep everything that he has given me except the engagement ring. He wants it back. I asked him what would he do with it and he said he will keep it, but I should not wear it. This ring means so much to me. I still love this man. He doesn’t believe that, but I do. What can you do for me? I find myself unable to sleep.
S.P

Dear S.P.,
I am sorry to hear what has happened in your love life. You recognise that you made a big mistake, and somebody who knows your fiancé told him that you went out with another man. You admitted to your boyfriend that you had sex, and he is refusing to forgive you. You see, he probably does not want to forgive you because he believes that you may do it again. It is unfortunate that you have destroyed a good relationship. I am not here to condemn you, I am only saying that it is unfortunate and I believe that you should give back your fiancé the ring he gave you. And, whatever he wants to do with it, it is up to him. Others might agree, but that doesn’t bother me. Please, give up the ring.

You may ask him to go with you to see a family counsellor; he may or may not want to go. If he doesn’t want to go, don’t try to force him.
Pastor