Girlfriend’s dad wants her to date a money man

June 05, 2019

Dear Pastor,

I am 18 years old and I am having a problem. I have a girlfriend who is also 18. We started a relationship one year ago. I love her very much. My mother loves her too, and she comes to the house at any time. She is an only child. Her father knows me because he works at a gas station, and my mother takes gas there, so he sees me all the time with my mother.

My girlfriend told me that he said I am still a schoolboy, and I would not be able to give her much. He wants her to have one of his big shot friends, but she is not interested in them. He talks to my mother and treats her as a customer. But when he sees me, he screws up his face, so I don't say anything to him again. I used to say 'morning' or 'evening' to him, but he hardly answers. My mother told me to leave the man's daughter alone because he is behaving like an ignorant man, and he may just hurt me.

Pastor, I love this girl. She is begging me not to leave her. How could I get this man to realise that his daughter and I are young people, and we only want his blessing? I will be off to university abroad very soon, and my girlfriend would be going to the University of Technology. Sometimes I wish I could stay in Jamaica and study, because I don't want anybody to get my girl.

What do you suggest?

F.N.

Dear F.N.,

Perhaps this man will change after you have gone to university and have done well. Right now, he sees you just as an ordinary schoolboy, and he thinks that the only thing you are after is to get under his daughter's skirt. He might even be thinking that you might get her pregnant and hinder her from going to university.

You see, young man, some folks are like that. That's the way they think when they observe a young woman and a young man moving together. They believe that all the guy wants is sex. So, some men even object to their daughters going on dates with young guys.

KEEp LOVE IN HEART

Therefore, my suggestion is, keep this strong love that you have for this young woman in your heart. If the love is in your heart and it is also in her heart for you, no one will be able to take it away from either of you. Don't let the feelings of love go to your head. Let it stay in your heart and it will grow.

If this man has another man in his mind for his daughter and she doesn't want that man, it is hardly likely that he would be able to force her to go with that man. So make sure that you are very respectful to this man whenever you see him. Whenever you see him and you say hello and he doesn't answer you, that's his problem. He is an adult, so treat him with respect. You should never do anything that will cause him to say that you have no manners.

You mother has told you to leave his daughter alone. I am sure your mother gave you that advice because she does not want to hear that you got into any altercation with him. True love is a matter of the heart, and if the love that you and this woman have is of the heart, her father cannot stop the both of you.

Pastor

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