Dad disowned me because of my boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I don't know what to do anymore; all hope is lost. My dad won't talk to me like before because I moved in with somebody that he is not happy to see me with.

This guy and I have been talking for eight years and I love him. I go and come by my parents; besides, my dad is like my neighbour, but he won't accept my boyfriend.

I love him to my heart, but the thing that shocks me was I expected that behaviour from my mother, because my mom is the harsh one.

Pastor, my dad hates me now. I called him to ask if he was okay and my dad hung up the phone on me. I feel like killing myself because I would call him all the time, but now I can't because he won't talk to me.

He only pays attention to my other sisters because they have reached their dreams and I haven't as yet. My younger sister has a three-year-old baby and I haven't had any yet.

That pains my heart because my dad keeps saying I can't have a child. I asked him why he says that about me.

CRYING EVERY NIGHT

What have I done, Pastor? It's like I have no father. I call my mom, crying every night because she knows how much my dad means to me. I'm in a good job and I'm 25 years old.

I don't only pray my dad would come around and be the dad he ought to be, but I pray I would get pregnant because my boyfriend has been trying for a year.

I have been to a doctor and everything seems fine. Could it be possible that my boyfriend of eight years can't get me pregnant? Because we tried everything.

Please, Pastor, what should I do now?

Y.M.

Dear Y.M.,

I suggest that you continue to try to reach out to your dad. He is not rejecting you because you do not have a child. That is foolishness.

I could understand that he doesn't love your boyfriend and he is disappointed in the choice that you have made.

But to be mad at you because you are not able to become pregnant is foolishness. So I am sure that is not the reason why he is not communicating with you.

He will always remain your father. So be very careful what you say about him. Continue to be a good daughter. And as far as trying to get pregnant, you should leave that in God's hand. Perhaps what you should be concerned about is getting married instead of living in concubinage. Your father would be happier to see you married.

Pastor