Got an abortion because my man cheated

Dear Pastor,

I've been dealing with these issues for quite some time now and they are beginning to influence me to make horrible decisions. I am currently living in the United States.

This has happened to me for the second time. The first time, the girl knew I was in a relationship with this man and that we even shared a child together.

But, Pastor, that destroyed everything: faith, trust, and the hope I had. I have now come to the US and I can't seem to get by somehow because I tell you, these females are as bad as some of the men.

Pastor, I'm currently working. I remember helping this girl to get a job, not knowing she would have a crush on my boyfriend; and just when things were looking up, the disaster struck.

I heard about it, and at first he denied it, until I saw her blowing up his phone and, unfortunately, the message came on the screen at that moment; it was indeed the moment of truth.

I was hurt. I was pregnant and I honestly couldn't keep it, as I refused to let history repeat itself.

Pastor, he knew I had been through stuff like this, and this time his only excuse was he was sorry and he didn't know how it happened.

He asked for a second chance, but I'm afraid it won't go anywhere. I sat there at our moment of truth when he called the girl and explained the situation to her.

He even confessed to her that he lied and that we (me and him) used to date first. None of those things mattered, as life has been so bitter to me over the years.

It's like I have given up. I'm trying to turn to the Church, but I don't know how to make the first step. Even after the abortion, I feel so horrible.

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

The worst thing for you to do is to hate yourself, and the second is to love someone else more than you love yourself.

You have made mistakes, but you cannot reverse the past. Your boyfriend is a liar. You must see him as a liar.

He tells you things that he wants you to believe. But you should never believe a liar.

Forgive yourself for the mistakes that you have made. Don't work on this man, work on yourself. Don't attack other women; they are not to be blamed for the situation in which you have found yourself.

Pray and ask God to help you and to forgive you for the mistakes that you have made. Go to church, read your Bible and pray. Nothing is too hard for God to do for you.

Believe me, I will be praying for you.

Pastor