This girl won’t leave my man alone

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 and I am having a problem with my boyfriend, who is also 23.

We have been lovers for two years. I work with the Government and he is in construction. He has been working with his father since he left high school.

Sometimes he makes lots of money, but there are times when business is slow. He is still living at home. His parents are Christians; he is not, but he goes to church. I love him very much.

His father is a very good contractor. He owns property all over the place. My boyfriend is everything I need. His father told me that if we are serious with each other, I wouldn't have to worry because he is teaching his son everything about the business.

I am trying to tell my boyfriend that it is good to work with his father, but he should try and get some more education.

He has four CXCs. I told him that he needs more and he agrees. I would like him to attend UTech.

He told his father what I said and his father replied that he is not against my advice, but I should know that he doesn't have to have a degree to be successful.

Pastor, I know that, but I would like my husband to be educated so that both of us can teach our children the importance of having a good education.

His father said that he would still give him half the amount of money he is making now per week if he was serious about going to school. I am sure that he would be accepted to attend UTech.

Something else is bothering me. I am not a very jealous girl, but a certain girl in our area is out to give me competition. She has been inviting my boyfriend out and he keeps turning her down.

So she started to tell him that I have other men and that he shouldn't trust me. She also told him that he is young and he should enjoy himself.

NOT WILLING TO SHARE

I told him that if he wants to believe her, he can. So, it is up to him, but if he is going to stay with me, I am not willing to share him with any other girl.

I read a text from her asking him if he would love to see some pictures of her that would turn him on. He told her no.

I asked him if he told her that he is not interested, but he did not answer. He took my virginity, but I will not run behind him and beg him to stay with me although I love him.

My mother knows the young woman and my mother told me that she cannot walk in my shoes. So I should not allow what she is doing to make me go crazy.

This girl has a good job, but so do I. At one time, she was living with a man and he gave her a good spanking for cheating on him.

My boyfriend has never hit me. He respects me too much for that. I don't have to take nude pictures and send to him to entice him. I am not into that.

Why is it that this girl won't leave my boyfriend alone? Whenever I talk to him about her, he says I am making him feel depressed.

The last time I talked to him about her, he shouted at me and walked away and turned off his phone. I could not get him for about two hours. He said he went straight home and went to bed. Please give me your advice.

T.J.

Dear T.J.,

I want you to always bear in mind that you are not the only woman who sees your boyfriend and likes him. Some women are not as bold as this woman.

Some women may love him, but keep that as a secret in their hearts. This girl wants him to know how she feels about him although she is aware that he is your boyfriend.

Now what I want to say to you is this. This young man and you have been going together and the relationship has gone very far. You know that this man is hard-working and ambitious, and it seems that he is willing to take your advice and go to college.

So, don't even harass him over this young woman. He has not got involved with her. Don't pay much attention to what she is doing. I am glad that you are working. Build your relationship with this young man day by day, and remember to write to me again.

Pastor