Pregnant for a married man

Dear Pastor,

I am writing you with tears in my eyes. I have a boyfriend. He is younger than I, but not many people are aware of this. When I met him, I did not know that I was older. He looked so mature.

It was after I slept with him and asked him his age that I came to realise that I am three years older than him.

That didn't bother me much, until one day my sister asked me about him and how old he was and I told her. Her comments were not very nice.

This guy was everything to me. I used to have a boyfriend before I met him and we have a child together. But he did not support his child.

When this guy and I became friends, he supported the child as if it was his own. He went abroad and sent me money regularly.

I made a big mistake in my life. I went to an event and I met a guy there. Satan got into me and I became friendly with the guy. After a few weeks, I went out with the guy and he took me to a hotel and we had sex.

Now, I am pregnant. Before we left the hotel, we realised that the condom broke and the guy said I shouldn't worry, nothing would happen to me. Well, something happened, because I am pregnant with his child and I can't stop crying.

DIDN't KNOW HIM WELL

I did not know this guy I met at the party very well. When I asked him if he had a girlfriend, he said yes, but they were not living together.

Since I got pregnant by him, I am finding out that he is married, living with his wife, and they have two children together.

I told my boyfriend that I have something to tell him and he said he is hoping that it is something good; if it is something bad, he doesn't want to hear.

My sister knows that I am pregnant and she said she knows that it cannot be for my boyfriend, because he is not here. She told me that I should tell him, but I am afraid to do so. Please tell me what to do.

R.A.

Dear R.A.,

You were very fortunate when you met this man. It seems that he really loves you. He has been supporting you and your child. You should have remained faithful to him.

But instead of being faithful, you got involved with a man you did not even know well and you went bed with him. Now you are carrying his child. But at the same time, you are still getting money from the man who is working abroad.

I am not here to condemn you, but I am begging you please to tell the man who is working aboard and sending you money that you are now pregnant.

He may or may not forgive you. But he deserves to know the truth. I can only wish you well. If he does not forgive you, you have thrown away a good man. That is the way I see it.

Pastor