He disappeared after he got me pregnant

Dear Pastor

I think I'm confused and I need your help. I have been in a one-year relationship with this guy who I fell in love with. It hasn't been easy, but I must say we have been through it and still managed to get back together.

In January, we separated and he moved in with another female. However, I pleaded and asked him to come home, which he did, and from there we've been happy.

Now, in this pandemic, I got pregnant by him. He is not yet a father. Things started to get rough as he is a taxi operator. One night he lay in bed and he suggested to me that he should move, seeing that I'm pregnant and we have to be paying for things like rent, light bill and food, and nothing much is going on.

At first, I thought to myself, 'yes it's a good idea'; but where would he go? I asked the question and he stated that he would be staying with one of his friends. I said OK. We reasoned that the money we normally pay for rent, we could save that.

Ever since he moved, I haven't heard from him. I don't know where he is, and remember, I'm pregnant. I called his phone and it went to voicemail. He has been lying to me and going back and forth with me and the same young woman.

I'm tired and I think I want to end the relationship, even though I love him so much and I wanted to start a family with him.

R.M.

Dear R.M.,

You are quite correct; this young man is lying to you. He does not want to stay with you. Especially now that you are pregnant and he does not have a stable job, you have become a burden to him. He is not a good man. In fact, he is a wicked young man.

As far as I understand what you are trying to say, he does not want to be responsible for you in anyway. You have tried your best to make this relationship work, but you made a big mistake by allowing him to get you pregnant.

He gave you the impression that all would be well if he didn't have to pay rent, utilities and buy food, and you believed him. He has let you down. He is still having a relationship with this other young woman.

I hope you would be able to prepare for the birth of your baby. I also hope that relatives would help you. There is no future with this man. After you have given birth, you may have to consider taking him to court for child support. I wish you well.

Pastor