Grandma encourages my boyfriend to sleep over

Dear Pastor,

I am 18 and my boyfriend is 26. We met when I was 16 and going to high school. He is my first boyfriend. I am living with my mother and from the time I turned 17, my mother and grandmother allowed him to sleep with me.

I don't have a good relationship with my father. He did not support me.

My mother has five children for five different men. The house belongs to my grandmother and she suggested to my boyfriend that he should help her to finish a room that she started to build and he would have a place for both of us to live.

He and my grandmother are very good friends.

When he doesn't give me any money, he gives to my grandmother, who is 70. The room that my boyfriend was helping her to build is almost finished. My mother is not giving me anything at all anymore.

This man is totally responsible for me. I love him. I told him that I would like to go to college and he said yes. He is planning to go and work in the USA and he will send money to buy a bed, dresser and television.

This man is so nice. Do you think he will change?

B.L.

Dear B.L.,

I can never support what your mother and grandmother have allowed you to do in their house. You started to sleep with your boyfriend in their house when you were 17. That is not right.

They should not have encouraged that. Now this man is doing an addition to the house. So, he does not intend to leave. Your mother and grandmother don't have any pride.

They believe that everybody should wrap up together in one place, and that is shameful.

I hope the day will come when you will see that type of living is not good and you will not take pride in living like that.

Pastor