Called my man’s phone and his girlfriend answered

Dear Pastor,

I don't know if you remember me but five years ago, you officiated my wedding. My husband and I were living together for almost five years before we got married. He cheated on me a number of times and we made up, and when we came to see you we didn't even mention it. We have two children. Everything was going well with us and my children were doing well in school.

I agreed for my husband to go abroad for a short period. He sent money regularly. He has relatives over there. But for the last four months, I have suspected that something is wrong. Whenever I call him, he promises to call me back and I end up waiting for a long time. When I do not hear from him, I call again.

One day I called and a woman answered his phone, and when I asked who she was, she said she was his girlfriend and asked who I was, and I said his wife. She said she didn't know he had a wife, and telling her then that he has a wife will not change anything between them. So I asked to speak to him and she said he was busy. I could not believe what I was hearing. About two hours after that conversation, I called back and my husband answered the phone and I told him the conversation I had with his girlfriend. My husband told me not to fret about that. He said that she was just a girl he met through his relatives and they have been dating just because he feels for a girl and he is lonely, but he is not having any serious relationship with her. I told him that I was lonely too, and I am sure he would not like to hear that I was dating a man. We spent a long time on the phone discussing it. The next day his sister called me and told me that my husband was careless. He should not have allowed this girl to answer his phone. So she knew that the both of them were fooling around but he would never leave me for her. Pastor, I am so worried. I didn't expect him to cheat on me. He is begging me to forgive him.

F.D.

Dear F.D.,

Your husband has admitted that he is guilty of infidelity. I hope that you would understand his circumstances and forgive him. I believe it to be true that he does not want to leave you for this girl. I will urge you that you remain faithful to him and encourage him to come home as soon as possible, and when he gets to Jamaica, both of you should make an appointment to see a family counsellor.

Pastor