Husband says we must pray before having sex

April 15, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 years old and my husband is six years older than I am. We have been married for two years. My husband has some strange habits. When we first got married he would not touch my private parts. He eventually got over that but in the middle of the night, if he wants to have sex with me, he wants us to pray about it first. He says that sex is sacred and people should not just have sex like that. If I object to what he is saying he curses me. Once my husband called me a whore because I refused to pray with him before we had sex. He said he did not pick me up on the street, he courted me and waited until we were married before having sex with me, so we should do what is right. Is there anything in the Bible that says a couple should pray before having sex? I would love for you to point me to that scripture.

A.H.

Dear A.H.,

I would say that your husband is talking nonsense. I would say that there is a time for everything. There is a time to eat, a time to drink, a time to play, a time to be serious, and so on, and there is a time to make love. If this man is waking you up in the middle of the night to pray before loving you up, it seems to me that he is punishing you. He is nuts. Perhaps I can suggest that you make an appointment with a family counsellor who you and your husband can meet with and speak to. Right now I am not against you rebelling against what your husband is doing because prayers are not necessary before a husband and wife have sex.

Pastor

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