Husband doesn’t believe in foreplay

Pastor,

I am 23 and my husband is 33. We both attend church. My husband does not act his age. He behaves as if he is an old man. Before I met him and started to attend the same church, I was accustomed to romantic love from my previous boyfriend. He knew how to get me in the mood. He used to play with different parts of my body and he was irresistible. When we broke up, I met this man and we got married. I can't complain about his treatment. He supports me and he pays almost all the bills. He likes me when I am fat so he does a lot of the cooking and he buys fast food a lot, but I am having a problem with him. He does not believe in proper lovemaking. He does not believe in foreplay. Whenever he wants sex, he wants me to roll over and he comes on top of me. There is no playing around at all, and whenever he ejaculates, he falls asleep and he has me wanting more of him. Whenever I complain, he thinks I am being too hard on him. He says we are Christians, so we must learn not to overdo anything. What do you have to say about my husband?

J.P.

Dear J.P.,

Judging by what you have said, nothing is wrong with your husband. He needs to learn that lovemaking is an art and he has not yet learned it. Lovemaking is not just having sex. He should read good books written by Christian authors and learn how to satisfy you. There are very good books on the market. I often recommended the book, Intended for Pleasure and there is another book, titled The Art of Lovemaking. You can purchase these books at Source of Light book store and you and your husband can take time to read every chapter and to put into practice what you have learned. Foreplay is very important, but don't be too hard on your husband because many other Christians are like him. They think that it is sinful to do certain things in the bedroom. He would change if he is willing to read, but you can help him. I repeat, don't be too hard on him. I wish both of you well.

Pastor