In love with my co-worker

Dear Pastor,

This is the second time I am writing to you. I want to bring something to your attention and hope that you will help me. I have a boyfriend and we work at the same company.

I am his supervisor. I have given him special treatment. I don't always assign him to difficult tasks and sometimes I bring him sandwiches that I prepare from home. I know there are other girls in the company who like him. They are always whispering how he dresses well. When I hear them talk, I remain silent, but sometimes I am dying for him to give me some attention. But the more I yearn for him, the more he gives me the cold shoulder. If I call a meeting with some of the workers and he has to attend, he says nothing. When I text him, he takes a long time to respond and sometimes when I ask him why he did not respond, he says he was busy.

I know I might be wasting my time, but he told me he does not have a girlfriend so I should not give up on him. What should I do to get more of his attention?

K.S.

Dear K.S.,

Perhaps you are trying too hard. If this man is interested in you, he will eventually let you know. If he is interested in you, he cannot ignore you forever. If, on the other hand, you make it known to the other workers that you love this man, he is likely to ignore you totally.

I know a medical doctor who worked in the same hospital as a nurse. He was in love with this nurse but the other nurses did not have a clue that they were lovers. Neither did his colleagues. They eventually found out when he and the nurse got engaged and married. I met this couple at a church in Georgia and what a joy it was to be with them. Perhaps this man is not ignoring you. He is only trying to be cautious and to maintain a high standard at the workplace.

Pastor