Think my friend is trying to take my man

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I am 24 years old and I have a boyfriend. He is everything to me. We have been friends for five years. He is 26 years old.

I did not do well when I was in high school and when I was 18, he got me pregnant. But I lost the baby. Some people told him that I threw away my belly. But that did not prevent him from remaining with me. He sent me to evening classes. We stopped having unprotected sex. Now I have five subjects and I am about to go to teachers' college.

TRUST HIM TOO MUCH

I spend most of my time at his house, but we are not officially living together because I am my parents' only child and my father is not well. So, I assist my mother. She used to work in the market, but because of my father's health, she has given that up. I help myself by buying things from America and selling them to friends.

I have a friend and she told me that I trust my boyfriend too much because no man his age would stay with one girl for so long unless the girl is working and can assist him. I told my boyfriend what she said and he cursed and said what she should have told me was that she likes him and she tried to get him to go to bed with her, but he told her no. So she is trying to say something to break us up. I don't allow this girl to come around me anymore. I still don't understand why she would offer herself to my boyfriend and she knows that the both of us have been together for a long time.

My boyfriend said that if he had done what she wanted him to do, she wouldn't talk. Is it true that all men cheat and they are not satisfied with just having one woman?

G.L.

Dear G.L.,

You have a very good boyfriend. Both of you have been friends since you were in school. You made a mistake by having unprotected sex and you got pregnant. After you lost the baby, both of you decided that you will no longer have unprotected sex. This man is a good man. He sent you back to school and you studied and you were successful in five subjects. Soon you will be entering teachers' college.

I am sorry to know that your father is not doing well. But you have been helping your mother to take care of him. That's what good children do.

Concerning your friend who has been trying to cause problems between your boyfriend and yourself, you should drop her as a friend. Evidently, she is very jealous of you. Your boyfriend could be speaking the truth. Perhaps she has indeed tried to get him to have an affair with her. But not all men cheat. However, don't be careless with your man. Don't be overconfident. Protect your relationship.

If you don't end the friendship with this girl who is supposed to be your friend, she will continue to push herself on your boyfriend and who knows, he may just yield to the temptation.

Pastor