Love triangle at work driving me crazy

Dear Pastor,

This subject makes my head hurt, simply because it is so stressful to be in a relationship with a man who is seriously involved with his babymother.

In addition to that, we all work at the same organisation. All it took was for this man to be honest with me in the first place. When he came to me, bearing sad news, he told me he messed up and she immediately found out he was cheating. I was shocked. I know the young lady he was talking about. She is sweet, and that alone makes me feel so torn up, much less her being his babymother. I told him he needed to know his role and stick to the script if he was going to cheat.

A lot of people would not realise that this man is so deceiving because he acts like he is quiet. This man in the middle is the director of the soap opera drama, but some men just don't take that job seriously enough, which always leads to trouble and chaos. How could he date two people in close proximity in the same workplace? There is no respect for either of us. But I am wondering what he told her.

This man tends to fall asleep at the wheel when it comes to making sure that everyone knows their place in his world, it seems. He would just let the chips fall where they may, instead of just being honest with everyone and let them decide to stay or go. He pretends too much to have everything all together. If I knew about his babymother, I would never have got involved. This man needs to take some responsibility as a father and as a lover, so that he can manage the relationship between his babymother and any new love interest.

All I am doing each day now is worry if she is going to find out that I am the other woman and confront me, and that someone would record the drama and send it all over the world. I have anxiety about going to work, fearing so much that I am going to get embarrassed. I went into this relationship blind. I took his word that he was single, lonely, and in need of some love and attention. He lies so much. He made me believe that he was single. I didn't know that the woman is not just a babymother, but actually someone with whom he is seriously involved and planning a future.

D.

Dear D.,

Now that you know that you got involved with a deceiver, and that this man and his child's mother work at the same organisation as you, why are you still having an intimate relationship with him? Am I to understand that you would still like to hold on to him, and that you hope he would end the relationship with his child's mother so that you will have him totally as your man? You give the impression that the man should not be trusted, but you have not said that you are willing to move on. You are still with him. You are only hoping that his child's mother would not find out that you are one of his lovers. You would be using common sense to bring the love affair between this man and you to an end. So, do so immediately. I wish you well.

Pastor