My girlfriend needs to be more patient

Dear Pastor,

I am the boyfriend of that young lady who wrote to you about how she told me rude things about my mother. I saw the story and I just want to get this out of the way.

First, when I met this young lady, she was working and living with her friend. After a few months, I asked her to move in with me. Then she got a better job. My stepmother was sick and in the hospital and she worked and took care of my siblings. She also helped me with my bills. After she came home from the hospital, she treated my girlfriend badly.

My girlfriend is a better cook than my stepmother. I buy all the food and she cooks. However my stepmother calls people and tells them that my girlfriend gives me a small amount of food and meat. Recently, she said that I didn't provide anything in the house. My girlfriend has never cheated on me. If I give her $100, she gives me back $50. She encourages me to go back to school and now I am in a better job. Now, I am sending her back to school. As a matter of fact, she has passed all her exams, and with all As. She has not left me.

I am not perfect, but I know I have given her reasons to leave me. I have texted other women, but I have never cheated on her. When her birthday came, she told me to use the money on my house and I could get something for her later. When she was working, she gave me money to work on my house. I borrowed her money until I emptied her bank book. I try to give her my all, to the point where she said if my family needs help, I should give it to them.

I hit her once and I was wrong. I love her and I will give her the help she needs. She got pregnant and had a miscarriage. My family tormented her. I told her to stop listening to them. She was stressed out, and grieved about losing the baby. They always mention it.

Her family has never caused me any pain. If 10 men text her, she always shows me. She says she has nothing to hide. She is a good woman. I have never taken her out, but she needs to wait. I am glad she has never done anything worse than I have done. Had it not been for her, I would not have a roof over my head. I don't want to lose her. She was even sexually abused by relatives. She doesn't like to speak about her past. She lived with her father. Her mother was not a part of her life.

She told me that the sky's the limit, so I can achieve what I want. She wants me to save so that we can buy a good bed to sleep on and have a refrigerator and a stove. We were in my family's board house; now I have a house made out of brick, and we achieved these things in two years. We have had good and bad times together. Whatever we have, we eat. We do not interfere with anyone, but she is very insecure.

O.B.

Dear O.B.,

I hope that you have become aware that you have a good woman in your life. She has made mistakes, but you should forgive her and assure her that you will always stand by her side. It is time for your relatives to get out of your life. Your girlfriend is not the type of person who interferes with your relatives, but she would be tempted to tell you things that will hurt you if she sees that you are not standing up for her. So, be a man and stand up for your woman.

Tell your stepmother that this woman is the one you have chosen and she should get out of your business. You recognise that your stepmother is a troublemaker.

Your girlfriend does not pressure you for money. There are not many women you can find who are like her. Many women want everything, but your girlfriend is not like that. She is satisfied with what she gets. Assure her of your love every day, and as soon as you are able, take her out on a date. I wish both of you well.

Pastor