Neighbour stole my boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am 32 years old and I am writing to you with a complain. I had a man and we lived together for three years. We used to live in a tenement yard.

I shared a house with another girl. She was there with her boyfriend, but she always liked my boyfriend and she was not afraid to say it. One day I saw my boyfriend kissing her and groping her bottom. I shouted out to them, and she said that they were just playing. I told her that she shouldn't play that way with my man. From that day I knew that something was wrong. I asked my boyfriend, later in the night, whether they ever had sex and he said no, and that he would not do that when he is with me.

MOVED TOGETHER

We do not have children. I went to Cayman for two weeks and when I returned, this man and the woman moved and went to live somewhere else together. It still hurts, because she was my friend and she had a man. Now her ex is telling me that he suspected long ago that they had a thing going and he talked to her. So, when I went on vacation, they used the opportunity to get another place and to move in together. Every time I think about it, I tell myself that I am going to hurt that girl, because she owes me $75,000. I called her and asked her about giving me back my money and she said she is waiting on a partner draw.

I asked her why she had to take my man away. She said that he told her that I had no use in bed because my private parts is too big, so I should go and look after myself. This man is a liar. He never told me that my private parts is too big. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. I just want to get back my money.

A.R.

Dear A.R.,

I suggest that you sue this woman for your money if you can prove that she owes you. There are two issues that you have to deal with.

One is about this man leaving you. You shouldn't try to solve that problem. Men leave women all the time, and women leave men. This man is very vulgar. I say that because of what the woman told you he said about your private parts. She might not be speaking the truth. Women say that about other woman all the time. It is a dirty way of women cursing each other. So you shouldn't make what she says about you get you down. But you do need to get back your money, and you should definitely consider suing her.

You can ask a lawyer to help you. Or you can go to the clerk of the court and ask him or her how you may go about suing her. Let her keep the man. Don't fight to get him back, but try and get back your money.

Pastor