Babyfather’s folks thinks child is a jacket

Dear Pastor,

I am 22 years old and I have one child. The father of the child left for America the day I found out that I was pregnant.

When I missed my period and told him that I suspected that I was pregnant, he said that I should try and find the father because although we had sex, he did not discharge in me. I told him that he did because even after he discharged, he was in me for a long time. I was in school and I talked to my friends about my problems and one of them told me what type of bush I could use to get rid of the belly. But I was afraid.

Finally I went to the doctor and the doctor confirmed that I was pregnant. My mother called the guy and told him what the doctor said. She also told him that if he did not want to support the child, she would like him to admit that he got me pregnant and not call me a liar. She said there was no reason to tell lies on him.

He spoke to my mother and then he called me and told me that if the child was his, he would like us to get married. I felt so good. We talk on the phone every day. He helped me to prepare for the baby. There was another guy I used to talk to and when he saw me, he asked what was wrong with me and I told him that I was pregnant. He called me a cheater. I did not cheat on him. We never went to bed. When my child was born and my babyfather's folks saw the baby, they told him the child was not his. He came to Jamaica, looked at the child and told his people to get out of his business. The child looks like his grandfather.

We are planning to get married next year and he has asked me to keep away from the guy in Jamaica who likes me. I promise to be true to him. I have been attending evening classes and my mother is keeping my baby. She is eager to see me get married and leave Jamaica. My child's father is 31. He is short and he has a difficult time looking up in my face. I sometimes tease him and tell him that he can wear my high heels.

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

I am glad that this man eventually accepted paternity. You would be a fool to lie on him about whether he is the biological father of your child because eventually the truth will be revealed. Whichever country you plan to migrate to, they are going to want proof that this man is the father of the child and a DNA test will prove that.

I hope that you will try and get yourself an education. You are going to need all the help you can to support yourself abroad. Those who told your child's father that he is not the father of the child should mind their own business. Take care of yourself and the baby. Keep one man.

Pastor