I regret having a threesome

Dear Pastor,

I am in my 40s and I am married. I had two children from a previous marriage. They are working, so I am not responsible for them.

I have been married to my husband for five years. He is not Jamaican, but I am. Before we got married, he got me to agree to engage in a threesome with one of my girlfriends. I told him I did not agree, but he knew her before we were married, so I asked her if she would join us. She said she would do it for US$600. I thought she was joking. When I told him, he said, "That sounds costly, so we did not have to have her in our bed". So I told him that I agreed. He returned and said that he would give her the money. I warned him that this would be a one-time thing and he said yes, but he wanted to have the experience of having two women in the same bed with him.

My friend came over and we somewhat rehearsed what we would do to him in the bed. We were having fun. I asked her if she had ever done that before and she admitted that she had. She said she was disease-free. This girl and I shaved each other, and I was prepared for my husband.

I am a working-class woman. She and I went out before my husband came home and we bought drinks and shrimp. Then, as I thought about what we were about to do, I told my friend that I changed my mind. I did not feel that I could see my boyfriend having sex before my eyes with another woman. My girlfriend laughed and told me that when she is working him over, I don't have to look.

When my man came home, my friend was hiding under the bed. I asked him if he really wanted the threesome and he said yes. I asked for the money. He went for his wallet. He had US$1000, so I took out the $600 for the girl and I took the rest. He said that he could not allow me to take the $400, because that is all he had to take him to work for the following week. I told him that I could not allow him to have sex with another woman and I do not get anything from him.

I told my friend to come out. She came out and he was shocked, and started to kiss her. She told him to have a special drink she bought. They drank it, and I can only say that he spent more time with her than with me. She had my husband having sex with her several times and I watched them. At one point, she told me she was only pretending to have an orgasm. When he ejaculated, I told him that he should stop and not to bother with me. He tried to have sex with me, but couldn't manage; he was exhausted. I will never have a threesome again. The man wasted his money on a woman who did not need it.

P.M.

Dear P.M.,

A couple of years ago, a young lady told me that she asked one of her friends to join her in bed with her man.

Her friend agreed, and her boyfriend gave her friend a couple hundred US dollars, and then he took over her girlfriend. The relationship with her boyfriend ended because her friend pleased him much more. You women need to learn that men who encourage you to do threesomes will not stop after having one relationship; they will always want more. The men are likely to look at you women as prostitutes.

You are fortunate that this man married you after having a threesome with your girlfriend. Evidently, you have learnt from your experience.

Pastor