Can't stop sleeping with my sister-in-law

Dear Pastor,

I am a 43-year-old man and I am married, but I have a big problem. I got married 10 years ago to a beautiful woman. She thought she was pregnant, so we hurried up and got married. It was something we were planning and she missed her period and so thought that she was pregnant, so we decided to get married privately. Afterwards, we discovered that my wife was not pregnant at all. We laughed it off because it was not our wish to have a child born out of wedlock.

Her sister and I were good friends. I had sex with her before I got married. We agreed that her sister and I should get married. But during the 10 years of my marriage, every time we had a chance, we had sex. She lives in New York and when I go to New York without my wife, we sleep together. To tell you the truth, I enjoy having sex with her more than my wife.

She came to Jamaica and we had a family reunion where her mother saw us kissing. We did not see her and her mother told my wife. My wife asked me about it before her and both of us denied it. We told her that we were hugging. Her mother said that she knows what she saw and that she is not blind. For two days straight, my wife asked me what is going on and I had to lie. This girl told me that I had better keep my mouth shout, otherwise she would have to break up my marriage by telling all. Please give me your advice.

R.D.

Dear R.D.,

I don't think you can consider yourself a good man, neither can your sister-in-law, who is also your girlfriend, consider herself a good sister. People do make mistakes, but this sister-in-law and you are wilful, careless and presumptuous.

I am sure that your wife thought that she was having a wonderful relationship with you. She couldn't dream that every chance you got, you were having sex with her sister and that you were enjoying making love with her sister more than with her.

Right now, whenever it is possible, encourage her sister to find a man. Keep away from her.

Pastor