He won’t said ‘I do’

Dear Pastor,

I have been in a relationship with my child's father for the past six years. Whenever I try to have a discussion with him, he gets angry or mutes himself. He turns his phone face down when he is around me most of the times. He is very secretive. He doesn't speak about marriage, and when I bring it up he speaks negatively about it.

My family keeps asking why he is not marrying me, but I would just change the subject. I am very faithful to him. I cook, wash and clean. The only fault I have is that sometimes I deny him sex, and that is because I feel he is just using me.

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Dear Writer,

Six years is a long time to be having a relationship with a man and to have a child by him, and yet you do not know where this relationship is going. He doesn't communicate well with you although you have tried to talk to him.

I am not suggesting that he should tell you everything he has on his mind, but you need to know enough that you would feel comfortable with him, and right now, you are not comfortable. He doesn't give you the impression either.

Therefore, you have to make sure that you do not get pregnant for this man again. Perhaps he has other women and that's why he doesn't even want you to glance at his cell phone. I have to tell you the truth. This type of man cannot be trusted.

You are dong everything for this man and yet he is not willing to make a commitment to you. Don't be surprised if one day you are told that he has another woman, because any card can play.

Make sure you get yourself a job so that you can support yourself. I wish you well.

Pastor