Sex-starved during this pandemic

Dear Pastor,

I am 28 years old and I recently got married. My husband is much older than I am, which is my preference due to the level of maturity that comes with age.

I am senselessly in love with this man. In fact, I see him as my Prince Charming. When we just started dating, the sex was phenomenal. I climaxed as soon as he inserted his angel wand inside. It is still the same feeling now.

However, he yearns for a child and I pray for this precious life-changing gift every day. But since we have tied the knot, our sexual encounters have been fewer and fewer. It is frustrating to be home in this pandemic.

It's like we have sex once a month now, and sometimes none at all for a month. I don't think I should have to spell out my sexual desires to my husband. How am I going to start our family without sex?

I want to fantasise about having sex with someone else, but I can't because there's no one else to compare him to. It's hard to always be masturbating while the actual person is just sleeping away.

He does not have regular conversations with me about past experiences or when he was growing up, and I just want us to continue to explore and learn about each other so we can be inseparable.

Sometimes I just want to talk but it's like I'm home alone; not a word would be uttered, just complete silence. Please give me your fatherly advice. I anxiously await your response.

P.H.

Dear P.H.,

This man doesn't have to introduce sex to you all the time. You can take the initiative whenever you feel like having sex with him. You can touch him, turn him over, get on top of him, and do anything you want to do with him.

It is unlikely that he would push you away. When it comes to a man and his wife, there is no rule which says that it is the husband who should make the first approach.

You have had so much sex with this man that he probably feels that he has run out of steam. Please remember that your husband is much older than you are.

So, perhaps he is tired. So, let him have a certain amount of rest before you insist on having sex with him.

Pastor