I love sex when my husband is ‘dirty’

Dear Pastor,

I work in an office and my husband works at a place where he has to deal with the public. I don't want to say what type of work he does. Often when he comes home he wants to take a shower before we make love, but he finds me very weird because I love the way he smells. It is sexy to me. When we just got together, he used to tell me to go and take a shower before romance, but he does not do that any more. I thought that I was crazy making love to my man before taking a shower, but talking to other girls, they said it is a real turn-on. In fact, that is how I got pregnant. My husband came home and I greeted him at the door and pulled him into the room and undressed him. The condom was in the drawer but in the excitement we didn't use it and a few weeks after I realised that he had got me pregnant. I continue to want to have sex with my husband before he goes to the bathroom when he comes from work.

K.P.

Dear K.P.,

Your girlfriends told you that making love to their men when they are sweaty or have just come home after work can be very sexy and the smells turn them on.

You thought that you were the only woman who liked this but you were so wrong. You are not crazy when you insisted that you wanted your man in the bedroom to do his thing before taking a shower. I can only say that I will be out of order to try and tell you that your husband and yourself should shower first before making love. It is not my business what the both of you want to do. I suggest that you shower together so you can enjoy your husband and he can enjoy you in the way you both wish. I hope you do not take my comments as an insult, but I repeat, it is not my business. I hope that it is not a matter of a lack of trust on your husband's part why he used to insist that you shower first. On the other hand, he might think that it is hygienic for a couple to shower and feel fresh before they engage in lovemaking.

Pastor