Afraid her babyfather may attack me

Dear Pastor,

I am a single man and for a long time I was looking for a wife. I finally met a woman at an event. I fell in love with her. I didn't know anything about her.

But as I talked to her, I found out that she had three children and she was living alone with them. I also found out that she looks younger than her age. I started to visit her. She works at a school. I work as a side man on a truck. I moved in with her and was helping her to pay her rent.

One night I was with her and I heard a knock on the door. It was one of her babyfathers. He wanted to come in but she told him that she had a visitor. She would not let him in. He pushed his way in and when he came in he saw me lying down on the bed and she said to him 'I told you I have a visitor'. He told her 'don't come back to me for any money, you are a whore'. For the rest of the night, I could not sleep because I did not know whether this man would come back and chop me up.

I do not have children. I take her children as mine. She is 10 years older than I am. My father is 66 years old and he has given me permission to put up a house on a piece of land he owns. I am in the process of doing so. I would love to marry this woman. I have to be sleeping with a machete at my bedside as my form of protection when I am at this woman's house.

Do you think I should marry this woman or leave her and look around for another woman? I am not educated, but this woman has helped me a lot. Give me your advice.

K.D.

Dear K.D.,

I believe that this woman loves you and that you love her. You did not give your age. Neither did you give hers. But regardless of the age difference, both of you seem to be in love. Don't let anyone pull you apart. I don't always encourage men to marry women who are much older. But sometimes these relationships work.

When men who are much older than women get married to these younger women, the younger women ought to always remember that they are going to be faced with the problem of jealousy. Older men are always very jealous and controlling. But some younger women can be just as jealous as the older men. They don't want to see other females around their 'sugar daddies' because they think these young women are after the men's money. Sometimes they are correct.

Pastor