Politician’s daughter is a bit too wild

Dear Pastor,

My girlfriend and I read your column every day. Sometimes we argue over your answers. She thinks that you are always on target. I think that sometimes you take the side of the women. Whenever you tell women that they should leave their boyfriends, my girlfriend supports you.

My girlfriend and I are 24. We are hoping to get married, but we are not ready. She lives in Jamaica and I have another year in college in New York.

She has accused me of having a girlfriend, but I don't. Her father is a politician and I do not support her father's party. Although we have been friends for the last three years, we still don't support the same party. Her father thinks that I am on his side, but she has not told him that I am not. She is an outside child and does not carry his name, so few people know that she is his daughter. But he loves her, and he supports her.

Whenever she is in America and we go out together. She likes to go to clubs where she will not be recognised. She is a totally different girl in America. She dresses in very short skirts and we go to bars and strip clubs. She said that when she is on vacation, I should allow her to loosen up because when she is in Jamaica, she cannot do certain things. Sometimes I wonder whether I am with the right girl. I was surprised to learn from my girlfriend that she has even tried smoking ganja. I have never smoked ganja.

My girlfriend does not believe that I don't have another girl. Although I know she does some wild things, I do not doubt that she is true to me. I have never caught any sexually transmitted diseases because, apart from her, I have not gone to any other woman. I live alone and whenever my nature is getting the better of me, I masturbate. I can't tell my friends, because they will say big men don't have to do that when there are so many women around.

I am looking forward to coming home in another year, and I hope to marry my wonderful princess soon after I arrive in Jamaica. I think of her day and night. But I am not prepared to switch my political affiliation. What do you think about this relationship?

S.

Dear S.,

Evidently, your girlfriend and yourself respect each other and you communicate very well. You don't allow your political beliefs to come between the both of you.

Her father, I am sure, would love to know that his daughter's fiance supports the same party as he does. But right now that is not so important.

I think of two prominent people in the United States who went all the way to the White House, but when they met, they came from two different political backgrounds. One was Republican and the other a Democrat. That did not interfere with their relationship. Later on in life, they supported the same party. So don't make your political affiliation come between yourself and your lady.

You say that your fiancee and you appreciate my column, although you think that I support the women more than the men. You are very wrong, sir. I speak my mind, and when men are wrong I say that they are wrong. When the women are wrong, I say that they are wrong. Some men cannot stand the truth. I have endeavoured to be balanced in every case. So many men do not respect women. They think that they ought to do what they want to do and women should always remain silent. I say it is time for women to speak up and to defend themselves. I make no apology for saying so.

I would like to encourage this woman and you to get to know each other well. Love and respect each other. Don't condemn her for going a little 'wild' when she is on vacation. She is just having a good time. Study hard, my brother, and when you return to Jamaica marry this woman.

Pastor