My husband can’t resist other women

Dear Pastor,

I am 40 years old and my husband is 45. We have two children together but my husband has three outside children. My husband is a businessman.

He is always getting into problems with the opposite sex. He is a sharp dresser. Women are always flocking him. Two of my female friends had relationships with my husband. One of them admitted it to me but the other has denied it. I saw a nude picture of her in my husband's cell phone. I confronted her and when she admitted that she had an affair with him, I cursed her properly and she and I are no longer friends.

SOFT HEART

Had it not been for me, these women would have wrecked my husband's business. When it comes to women, he has a soft heart. Recently a girl called me and told me that she is pregnant for my husband. When she gave me her name, I asked her how it happened and she could not keep her story straight. I had my husband on the extension and I called her another time while he was listening and eventually she said that she just wanted help to get rid of the baby. I told her that she needed to find the man who got her pregnant.

My husband's outside children and I get along and we have an understanding that he should pass all money that he wants to give them through me. In that case they will not trick him. When we first met, he couldn't understand why he should give me the money that he wanted to give to them. But it was not long after that he came to realise that he would save money by doing so. His two outside girls are like my own. His son is his oldest child and he has lots of girlfriends. But his father has been telling him not to make the same mistakes that he has made.

Right now my husband is in debt and it will take him some time to get out of it. But it is these women who have caused him to be owing so much money. I have given up my job to work with my husband. It will take a while before we are out of debt.

S.

Dear S.,

Some people will call your husband free-handed. He would give away everything he has. I knew a man who was like that. He had a good business. He earned more than enough to support himself and his family, but he was always giving away his money and he was always broke. His wife was of no help to him. She was a silly woman. Unlike you, you have taken charge of your husband's affairs and you are trying to steer him in the right direction. Congratulations to you. The other women who were in his life will not like you because you are preventing him from being extravagant with his spending.

I am not surprised that even this girl who accused him of impregnating her was telling lies on him. Girls who want money out of men often tell lies. I hope that his son will come to his senses and not blow his money or his substance on women. The Prodigal Son wasted his father's money and lived to regret doing so.

Pastor