About to marry my blind date

Dear Pastor,

I am having a relationship with a man who I met on a blind date. That was two years ago. My friends set me up on this date.

They said that I was working too hard and I was not taking time off for myself. So, I reluctantly agreed to go on this blind date. The guy picked me up at my apartment and he was very impressive. He was nicely dressed. He was wearing a jacket but no tie. He wore jeans. He did not talk much about himself; he wanted me to do most of the talking. I had to ask him about himself. He said he did not have much to say about himself, but it was not true because he was very bright. When it came to politics, he knew what was going on in the world.

My friends did not tell me that he is a medical doctor and that his father is also in the medical field. I also found out by questioning him that he has one daughter and she is living with her mother. He also has a housekeeper who takes care of his apartment three times per week. But he does his own cooking.

Our date lasted for about two hours and then he took me home and at the door, he kissed my hands and told me we could do it again some other time. I called the two friends who set up the date for me and told them that I had never met such an amazing man. At no time did he ask me for sex or even raise the topic. Both of them told me that he had already called them and told them that he was impressed with me. We have been going out every week and I introduced this matter of 'bed works' to him. At first he pretended that he did not hear me, so I repeated it. He asked me why I was in a hurry. I assured him that I was not in a hurry but I wanted to know if he would like to get to know me that way.

It took six months before this man and I went to bed. Now, we are planning to get married and his daughter will be my maid of honour. We are like sisters. My friends told me that she is too young to be my maid of honour. She is only 18 years old. Please for your thoughts.

F.S.

Dear F.S.,

Evidently, you have played your cards very well and this man is, indeed, a gentleman. His daughter has accepted you. You should consider using her in your bridal party, but use one of your girlfriends who introduced you to this man as your maid of honour. I believe that would be more appropriate. However, there is no rule against using an 18-year-old as a maid of honour. It is really up to you.

I hope everything will go right for you and that this man and you will love each other and not allow anything to come between you that may destroy your relationship. Make sure that both of you attend premarital counselling. Remember that respect and communication go a far way in a relationship.

Pastor