I love entertaining men for money

Dear Pastor,

I am 35 and I have a steady man in my life, but he does not belong to me. I used to play around a lot when I was in my teens. I had sex three times in one day with three different men.

It was something I used to enjoy. Having sex with men is the way I used to support myself. I used to even give my teachers in high school money so that they could buy lunch.

I had friends who were very close to me and I helped them. I slowed down when I realised that I had picked up a STI and I didn't know who gave it to me. Some of these men were married and they were my customers. The married men treated me much better than the single men. Sex was very pleasurable. I did not want children. I changed after I had to spend lots of money on going to doctors. I thought I would never be able to get rid of the discharge.

I went to America on vacation and stayed with a friend. She introduced me to her doctor, who provided me with prescriptions for different medication and warned me to stay away from sex until I was totally cured. I followed her advice. I overstayed my time in America just to go back to that doctor. When I did, she told me I could have sex again.

I was never out of condoms when I returned to Jamaica, and started to have sex again. I became very choosy with the men. I questioned every one of them about their sexual practices. Everyone told me that I was the only one they were having sex with outside of their marriage. I knew that was a lie. I printed cards, and when I met a new guy, I handed him a card so that he could tell others about me.

I know that you will not support my lifestyle, but I am not the type of person who wants a desk job. That is too boring. I have my own business, apart from entertaining men, and it is doing very well. I have employed three young women to work with me and they are efficient. They are not allowed to be intimate with my male customers. I was able to buy an apartment with the help of a married man, whose wife knows that he and I are good friends. But she does not know that we are bed partners. This man gives me anything I ask for. I love him so much that I obey him.

The doctor told me that I will never have children. I would like a family, so I intend to adopt two children before I am 45. My mother depends on me for support. My only sister is living with a man, and she does not show much love to my mother.

Now that I have told you so much about myself, I feel better. I have not had unprotected sex for a long time. I hope that one day I will become a counsellor and show young people how they can live and not get into the type of trouble I had to undergo. Thank you for reading my letter.

F.T.

Dear F.T.,

You seem to be saying that you still have many lovers, but there is this special man who is married. If he says you should jump, you jump. I would like to find out from you why you still prostitute yourself when you have your own business. Why can't you live on the profit from the business? At least you are earning an income. So why are you entertaining different men?

This man you consider your lover, is he not aware that you are seeing other guys and that you are even advertising yourself as a prostitute? I am glad that you have your own home, and I hope that your neighbours will treat you well.

If you entertain lots of men all the time at your house, it won't be long before they suspect that you are a prostitute. Wouldn't it be a wonderful thing if you were to find a man who would treat you as well as this married man and with whom you would be able to settle down and have a family? You said that earlier in your life you did not want children, but now you are hoping to adopt at least two. However, you will have to change your lifestyle; and I know that it is not impossible to change. You have my prayers.

Pastor