Think my boyfriend is a great guy

Dear Pastor,

I am a 19-year-old girl and I am in college. I have a boyfriend who is 21.

Both of us are attending university, but he will soon graduate. He is not Jamaican, but because of me, he is hoping to stay in Jamaica for a while. I love this young man and my parents love him, too. His father is a preacher, and I grew up in a Christian home. He is not my first boyfriend, but when I met him, I dropped my other boyfriend who I was friendly with from I was 17. This other guy had one type of conversation. Whenever he talked to me on the phone, it had to be about sex. Sometimes I used to ask him why he couldn't allow us to have good and clean conversations, and he used to say that nothing about sex is dirty.

My present boyfriend is always encouraging me to study hard and to do well. He told me that he would love for me to meet his family. But he does not see that chance coming until they are able to come to Jamaica for his graduation. I am eager to meet them. He is a very tall guy and I am short, so I always have to be looking up into his face. I have to always be wearing heels when we go out on dates. I am not only short, I am skinny. Although this man is in school, he sees to it that I have money. He cares for me. He sends me gifts, and he has never forced me to have sex with him. He has even helped me to do my assignments. He always calls me before he retires to bed.

Do you think this man will ever change? I don't want him to change. He reads your column every day, so when you answer this letter, I am going to show it to him.

E.C.

Dear E.C.,

I hope this young man will not change. I hope that he will continue to love you, and the love that both of you have for each other will grow deeper and deeper. I wish both of you well, and you have my prayers.

Pastor