Thinking about tying off

Dear Pastor

Let me begin by congratulating you for the good work that you are doing. I read your column every day and I always listen to you at nights.

I buy THE STAR and take it home with me. After I have my dinner and a shower, I read your column. Whenever I am listening to your show, I do not like to be disturbed. Some people even jokingly call me 'Dear Pastor'. I agree with most of the comments you make.

I do security work and it is hard work. My husband and I are in the same type of work, but he works with another company. We were able to pay down on a little house; it is only two bedrooms, but we are trying to add on another room and a bathroom so that our three children can have enough space and their own bathroom.

We are not earning a lot of money, but we are very comfortable. I have thought about getting another job that would pay me more, but my husband is not in favour of me seeking another job. My children are doing very well in school. I do not want to have any more children, but my religion is against that. Do you think it is wrong for a woman in her 30s to get the tie off? Please give me your advice.

G.R.

Dear G.R.,

You did not say how old your husband is but you are in your 30s. I am glad that both of you are working and have done well, because you are living in your own home.

Many people in their 50s and 60s do not own their own home. You have land space to put on another room. I wish you could add on two rooms and another bathroom, but that might be strenuous. I hope that after you have added one room, the time may come when you will be able to add another, because when the children have grown up and are no longer living with you, your husband and you could rent the space and earn additional income. You have to plan for your senior years.

If you enjoy doing the work that you are doing, don't be anxious to move or to seek employment with another company. You may earn a few more dollars, but you may not be happy working with the new company. So, listen to your husband; he is wise in telling you to stay where you are.

Pastor