I left my high-school sweetheart for a rich girl

Dear Pastor,

My girlfriend and I have been friends for five years. We attended the same high school and graduated together. She went to university one year after graduating from high school.

We did not see each other as often as we used to, and I got involved with another girl. I am not proud of it, but this girl is working and she is driving. She picks me up and take me out, and my mother told me she was happy to see how well this girl was treating me.

The relationship grew and we began to have sex. The first time it happened, I felt I could not control myself. We did not use any protection and I could not pull out fast enough. She told me that she knew what to do and I should call her the following day. When I called her, she said she bought the Pill. I asked what was she talking about and she said that she bought the morning-after pill so I don't need to worry.

My girlfriend was on a break from university, but when she wanted to see me I could not see her. She became very annoyed and demanded that I tell her what was happening. I told her that I had to go somewhere and she was not pleased. I made up excuse for one week until I finally told her that I was seeing another girl. She called my mother and asked her if she was aware that I had another girlfriend and my mother said that she should answer that question for herself.

Breaking up with my first girlfriend was not easy. However, I had to do so because the love I have for the other girl was much stronger than the love I have for the my high school girlfriend. In addition, the other girl assists me financially and gives better pleasure.

My present girlfriend is telling me that her father will assist me in getting a car, and all she wants to know is that I would not have her and have my girlfriend at university at the same time. My mother told me I should not allow my present girlfriend to prevent me from going to university, but since I met her, my life has turned upside down. I find myself not being able to do anything without her.

Recently, my ex-girlfriend, who is in university, told me that I am wicked but she is still available and she is willing to wait for me to come to my senses.

Pastor, what should I do?

W.G.

Dear W.G.

It is apparent that you have not totally broken up with your high school girlfriend. You are having a relationship with a girl, whose parents are people of means. This girl is able to assist you financially and you are carried away by what she can do for you.

You need to ask yourself whether you really love her or you love what she can do for you.

I am afraid that you are going to regret leaving your girlfriend who is in university because of what this present girl can do for you. Remember that her parent's money is not her money. So you should ask yourself which of these girls you love more? You said a few things that I cannot put in the paper because children read this column.

After you have answered the question about who loves you more, you should make a decision and live by it.

Pastor