Improve your sexy this year

It's January 2016 and the tradition this time of year is to make resolutions. Yes, I will do the whole 'healthier body, wealthier bank account' thing, but I cannot neglect my sexy. It's always a great idea to work on improving our lives, but many persons seem to forget the sexy part. Relationships are not just about companionship and security.

Sex is a very important part of who we are and it affects the quality of our lives. So, I invite you to join me on my quest to improve my sexy for 2016. Here are some of the things I plan to do:

• I am throwing out old underwear and clothes that no longer fit

I don't like clutter and I don't wear old torn or stretched out underwear. So I am going in my closet and I am going to get rid of anything that doesn't make me feel fabulous when I wear it. That way I can make room for some more fabulous, sexier, clothes. Lingerie anyone?

• I'm getting my exercise on

Yes, exercise is good for the body and there are great heath benefits, but it can actually rev up your sexy as well. Your clothes fit great, you feel fabulous, and you have more energy when you want to get sexual. So running club, here I come.

• I want to have more sex

Yes, my busy life doesn't really allow for a very active sex life, and I intend to change that. I will try to increase my activity by once more per month. So on those crazy months, I can get some at least once, at the bare minimum. I should probably stock up on condoms, safety first.

• I'm going to learn how to pole dance

I don't care what you think, but a woman who has mastered pole dancing is very sexy. I want to be her. So I will build up my upper body strength and get going. And by the way my pole dancer name is going to be 'Strawberry Shortcake'.

• I am going to act out at least one fantasy

Yes I have fantasies too. And I know some people feel that they are very adventurous, which some of them are. In 2016 I intend to make some of them a reality - with the relevant safety precautions. Yay me!

• I'm going to try something completely new

This one is still a mystery, I am not sure what it will be, but I do know I intend to enjoy every minute of it. Any suggestions?

• I will upgrade my toy collection

Sex toys are fun, whether by yourself or with a partner. Some persons have already invested in a small vibrator, but it's time to upgrade. Get something new, that you haven't tried and go nuts. I've moved from those introductory toys years ago. I have seen some very interesting toys being developed so I have a plethora of choices. I think I'm going to get something that will make even Christian Grey blush. Sexy fun!

New year's resolutions are great and I think it's excellent that we try to improve on ourselves. The trick is to be realistic with our resolutions so we can stick to them. It is also very critical that we don't forget to work on improving our sex lives. So get to it and make sure you have a fun, be adventurous and very sexy 2016.

Question

Dear Dr Sexy-Ann

I am tired of being in a relationship with a man who refuses to try anything in in bed. He doesn't even kiss me. All he wants to do is have intercourse. We have been together for two years and he has never really done any of those things. But I meet men everyday who say they want to do them and I don't want to cheat. He is a good man, but I cannot do this anymore. Help me please.

Brenda, Spanish Town

Dear Brenda

I understand your frustration. Many persons are taught that sexual satisfaction is not necessarily something that is important in a relationship. I disagree. You are clearly not getting your needs met. You should communicate how important this is to your partner. If he does not want to participate you need to decide if this is a relationship you want to continue.

Good luck!

Dr Sexy-Ann