Am I pregnant for my boss or my boyfriend?

Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and I want to commend you for the good work. I am 19 years old. I am pregnant. I am not sure who to give this child to because I am having sex with my boss and I have a boyfriend. None of them used a condom with me. I told my boyfriend that I didn't want to get pregnant so every time we have sex he pulls out. My boss doesn't pull out. He told me he can't get anybody pregnant because he tied his tubes. He has three grown children. I like having sex with him because it feels better when he is ejaculating in me and sometimes we come together.

When I did not see my period, I spoke to my boss and he told me that I should know what to do. I told him I would do it. I don't want to throw away the pregnancy. I haven't told my boyfriend. I am two months pregnant, but I am fat so it's not showing as yet. I don't know what to do. Please help me to make a decision.

G.L

Dear G.L.,

Tell your boyfriend that you are pregnant. He has been practising the withdrawal method which is not safe. Your boss says that he did the vasectomy operation so he cannot get you pregnant. If he is speaking the truth, then it is likely that it is your boyfriend who got you pregnant. I repeat, that is if he is speaking the truth.

I cannot encourage you to have an abortion, so please, make plans to have your child and please stick with your boyfriend. Your boss doesn't care what happens to you. you should think seriously about your future. If your boyfriend does not accept the child, you may have to consider doing a DNA test when the child is born to determine who is the father.

Pastor