I have to give him sex if I need anything

Dear pastor,

Please help. I have been with a man for six years. We have two children. He lives at his grandmother's home. I am still at my parents. He said he cannot leave his grandmother because she grew him and he is the only one she has. I told him that I would not live there. He sleeps at my house, sometimes, but he spends most of the time at his grandma's house.

He gives me money for the children every week because he is weekly paid. If I want anything for myself, he delays. I have to ask him over and over. If I don't have sex with him, I may not get it. I am working but sometimes I need a little help. Sometimes he is so disgusting because not all the while I want sex. He throws words at me, saying, "I wonder if you are keeping man with me".

He said he will marry me but I will have to live at his grandmother's home. His grandmother is 80. My sister said I should leave him but I don't want to. He is a good man.

P.C

Dear P.C,

This man loves his grandmother because she raised him. He is obligated to take care of her. He loves you and his children. He is not prepared to leave his grandmother and go anywhere while he could accommodate you and his children at her house. Don't allow this situation to cause a break-up over this matter.

Concerning your needs and sex, he uses that as a weapon. He supports the child but, for you, he wants extra sex. He should do better than that. Save your money and buy what you want so you do not have to do what he feels you should, such as granting his request all the times.

Pastor