He doesn't want to get married, he doesn't want to separate

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old female with a young baby. I am having some problems. I don't know anyone I can talk to. My babyfather and I have been together for almost three years. It has been a great relationship though we have had some disagreements, but that is normal.

I was a Christian three years ago but things changed when I became pregnant. I made a promise to God that if he took me through my pregnancy and I had a safe delivery, I would come back to Him and worship Him. Yes, I had a safe pregnancy and delivery. I brought a healthy baby boy into this world. I thank God for that. I want to get married to the father of my child so we can be together. However, he is not interested. When I say, "let us separate", he refuses. I want to keep my promise I made to God but I don't know what to do. My boyfriend is a great father to his son and a great boyfriend. It is just that I don't know what is holding him back from us getting married, yet he doesn't want me to walk away. Please reply as soon as possible.

Tired

Dear Tired,

You are not going to be able to force your boyfriend to marry you. It makes no sense to nag him. In fact, if you try to push or nag him, you may find that he will seek comfort in the arms of another woman.

On the other hand, you cannot allow him to feel you are happy in the relationship. Every once in a while you should remind him that you are unhappy as a single

mother.

It is unfortunate you allowed him to get you pregnant without assurance of marriage soon after you had your baby.

You have to ensure you do not get pregnant again, until you are married. I can assure you of my prayers.

Pastor