I want to go back to womanising ex

Dear pastor,

I am 23. Some years ago I was dating a guy almost 10 years my senior. He was a real sweetheart.

Eventually we became lovers and lived together. We were both working. He was a bit too open-minded though, so we were having problems.

We were always going out and drinking. Females complained that he was making passes at them. At one point my dad said he saw him kissing another female.

I didn't leave him then. This posed a big problem. It turned into a family issue. They didn't like him, and this knowledge made it worst. He denied it, though, and I stayed because I genuinely loved him.

The open-mindedness became overbearing so I eventually left after being with him for two-and-a- half years.

I didn't take a break, though, I moved in with someone else who had been trying to court me. He was 24. I got pregnant. My ex was furious, but asked, to be the guy on the side because he loved me and wanted a place in my life. I didn't allow it though.

I still have feelings for my ex. I haven't seen him since December, though, but he wants to see me and the baby to have that little talk. What should I do?

J.D

Dear J.D,

I can't' believe you are real. Are you walking on your senses? You have to be walking on your head to be talking about wanting to go back to the man who is clearly a womaniser and does not have any respect for family life.

You might have feelings for him, but he doesn't have any respect for you.

You are too hot. You went straight into another relationship. Stay with one man. Don't allow men to use you. Don't go back to the guy you left, and who has been trying to become intimate with you again.

Pastor