He doesn't want me to get an abortion

Dear Pastor,

I am 21. I have big problems. I have a job. Three months ago I started working in an office. I am being supervised by a male. I like him very much. He likes me too. Sometimes he takes me out for lunch. When he doesn't have to attend classes, he takes me home.

One Thursday evening we worked late. About an hour after closing time I was feeling horny. I told him. What started playfully ended up in sex. He leaned me against the wall. I did not even take off my underwear, but he got in easily. I came and I knew when he ejaculated in me.

We laughed about it and called each other crazy. Now I am pregnant. I want to terminate the pregnancy, but he does not want me to do so. I am not permanent in this job. He is seeing another girl. He told me the very first day we went out together.

My parents are middle class. They would kill me if I carry this child. The devil got in me. To think that this man had sex with me standing up against the partition, I cannot believe I could have gotten pregnant having sex that way.

N.A

Dear N.A.,

I encourage you to carry your baby. What has happened is already done. You ought to have known, irrespective of the position, a woman has sex in, she can become pregnant because sperms swim upward very fast and race towards female eggs.

People fall in love every day, but you were aware that this guy was dating another girl, so you should have been more careful. Perhaps he is planning to end the relationship with the other girl and marry you.

What I would encourage you to do is inform your parents about your pregnancy.

Pastor