I'm in love with another woman's man

Dear Pastor,

I have a man friend. He comes to see me every week. He does not live in the area. I am living with my three children, and sometimes, my mother stays with us and watches the children when I have to work at nights. I work with a security company and the boss loves me. He gives me the lighter work to do. This is causing jealousy in the firm. My man friend is not married but he is living with a woman. I told him that I would like to get married and he can't marry me. He said it is too soon to talk about marriage.

I don't want to make any more mistakes. My last two children were for a married man whose wife was living in America. He told me that she wasn't coming back. I did not know that he was lying to me until I was pregnant with my last child, which is the second one for him. He told me that his wife was in the island, then he stayed away for four days. The next time I heard from him was when he was in New York, so I don't want that to happen to me again.

I can call my boyfriend at any time at his house, and when his woman answers, I just ask for him. She doesn't know that we are having an intimate relationship. She believes that everytime I call him, it is business. I don't have anything that this man would want. I don't want to leave him because he is everything to me. I know the other girls talk about me behind my back, and when they say anything about him before my face, I keep quiet.

Should I leave this man, and what reason would I give? He told me he is not going to marry the woman he is living with. I don't know what to do.

Unnamed

Dear Unnamed,

Remember, if anything goes wrong in this relationship between you and this man, you would not be able to say that you were not aware that he is living with a woman. You do not know for sure whether he is speaking the truth. They may not have a rocky relationship. He might be telling you what you want to hear to keep the relationship that he is having with you going. I can't encourage you to continue in this relationship, but the decision is totally up to you.

Pastor