People think my husband is my driver

Dear Pastor,

For 15 years my husband and I have been living together. I am a professional. Many people do not know that we are married. They think he is my driver.

He takes me to work and he keeps the car and comes back for me whenever I call him. He has his friends and I have mine. He is a very humble man.

He is not a dunce, but he is not educated. I like it that way. Few of my friends know that he is my husband but they do not discuss him at all with me.

We do take vacations together. I pay my husband for everything he does for me because he is employed by me.

I have two children, a boy and a girl. My husband does not have children. My children love him. They buy him nice clothes.

My husband only has one fear and he told me that he believes that I may leave him. I told him that he doesn't need to fear that, but if that is to happen, he will be better off.

He cooks, he cleans and he does everything better than a woman. When everybody comes to see me, he calls he 'Miss'; they don't know he is my husband.

I am not Jamaican, but I speak Patios. You may ask why I have not made it known that we are married. I cannot give the reasons, but they are good reasons. I don't have a lazy man.

Everything in the yard is in good condition because he is a good landscaper. People should not judge. My ex- husband is an intellect, but he never treated me with respect.

My present husband is very respectful and loving and he thinks the world of me. I do not embarrass him. His folks do not know that we are married.

He hasn't said anything to them, so I don't say anything to them, either. He takes good care of his mother. I listen to your powerful show at nights, keep up the good work.

F.K.

Dear F.K.,

Although you did not say why you don't want the public to know that you and this gentleman are married, I am free to speculate and I hope that you won't be mad at me.

You are probably a much older woman and you feel that some people would call you a cougar. Some may say that you are taking advantage of this poor brother and using him as your gardener and helper. But you know what you are getting out of this relationship.

You are happy with him and he is happy with you, congratulations. Continue to take care of each other. I wish both of you well.

Pastor