I trick my parent to have sex with my boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am 16 years old. I have one brother and he is allowed to go out and stay out late. He has just turned 18.

Whenever I want to go out, it is always a big argument in the house. My mother wants to know where I am going and why I am going there. Sometimes I have to lie.

I tell her that I am going to the library, and I pack my school books in my bag and my boyfriend picks me up at our favourite spot.

Sometimes I say to myself that it is my parents who have caused me to have sex so soon. When my boyfriend picks me up, he takes me straight to his house and he orders pizza. We stay in bed for the entire day.

We watch movies and play games. My clothes are never crushed because as I get to his house, I take off my clothes and put on one of his T-shirts.

I nearly got caught one day because someone came to his house to ask him to do something for him and when I peeped out, it was my English teacher from my school. He did not see me.

My boyfriend and I have been friends for one year. I am very slim; I don't look my age. One day, I heard him telling another person in the yard that his daughter was here to see him, and the woman said, "She resembles you for true."

My mother would kill me if she knew that I was having sex. I know that you are going to say that I should stick to my lessons, but what I am doing does not affect my lessons.

S.B.

Dear S.B.,

Please understand that though you believe that you are a big woman and that you can do anything, you are not punishing your parents because they have tried to lead you in the right direction.

You are responsible for the things you do. That is how life goes. I am sure that this man who you call your boyfriend would not want his 16-year-old daughter to lie to him and tell him that she was going to study when in truth and in fact she was going to meet her man.

You say that what you are doing is not affecting your school work. I would like you to know that you would do better in school if you were concentrating on your schoolwork.

Your parents might be a little over protective, but they mean you well, but you don't mean yourself well. I hope this guy will not get you pregnant and that he will always be aware that he is dealing with a naive girl who thinks that she is a grown woman.

Pastor