Boyfriend wants a baby from another woman

Dear Pastor,

I am from Manchester. I am very much in love with a man, but because I cannot give him a child, there are problems in the relationship. He is 41 years old, and I am 40.

I have had three children by Caesarian section. I told him before we got involved about my problem, and he told me that I should not worry about it.

Now, he wants to go and get another woman pregnant, and he expects me to be happy about that, knowing that he could pick up some type of illness out there.

He is not interested in adopting a child. I would like to get married. We went to my pastor to plan the wedding, but it was postponed.

He also said that if I found someone to get married to, he would not prevent me. Now, I have told him that I have found someone who would marry me.

He does not want to hear that now. Can you please tell me what to do? I want to go back to my church.

L.

Dear L.,

I am going to suggest to you that if, by the help of God, you were able to truly find another man who would love you and marry you, you should accept the new man's proposal and stop wasting time with this man who wants a baby from someone else.

He is a time waster. You are 40 years old, and at your age, you want to be happy. You don't want to be fighting with a man. So you don't want to fool around; you want to protect yourself.

This man wants to go and play around with another woman with the hope of getting her pregnant. It seems to me that he is just a joker. Leave him.

Pastor