Boyfriend stole my grandmother’s money

Dear Pastor,

I am 19 and living with my grandmother. We are the only ones living in the house. My grandfather died two years ago and I moved in with her.

We sleep on the same bed because she does not like to be alone. My grandmother trusts me, so sometimes she leaves the house to go on 'warning'. She is a revivalist. She knows that I have a boyfriend.

One evening, my boyfriend came to the house and we were in grandma's room. I went to have a shower. My grandmother had $71,000 in her dresser.

I didn't think that my boyfriend would search the dresser, but he did. He found the money. A few days later, my grandmother went in the drawer and was looking for the money and didn't see it.

scattered everything

She asked me if I had gone into her things, and if I had seen the money. I told her I didn't go into her drawer, and I didn't know she had money in there.

My grandmother became confused. She pulled out every drawer and scattered everything on her bed. She said she was sure that she had the money in there.

She asked me if anybody came to the house while she was away and I told her my boyfriend did. But I lied and told her that he didn't come into her room.

I called my boyfriend and asked him why he took my grandmother's money, and he said he didn't. I told him he should be careful because my grandmother is a revivalist and something bad might happen to him.

I went to my grandmother and told her that I believed that my boyfriend took the money. She said I should tell him that she was giving him 21 days to return the money.

He told me he would bring it. After 15 days had passed, I called him and asked him when he was going to come with the money. He said he had $50,000.

Grandma said she would take it and give him time to bring the rest.

I did not know that this man was a thief. I am confused, because we have been friends from I was 16. He took my virginity. Now my grandmother is telling me that I should leave him, and she doesn't want to see him in her house.

My boyfriend cannot give me a good reason why he stole her money. One mind tells me to break up with him, but in my heart, I still love him. Please help me to make a decision.

T.S.

Dear T.S.,

You should not even write to ask me what you should do. You should have told this man as soon as you became aware that he had stolen your grandmother's money that you did not want him anymore, because he is a thief and he has embarrassed you.

He had no right to go into your grandmother's dresser. He is a dirty guy; dirty in every way.

You cannot be proud of him. Yes, you said he took your virginity, but he came to your grandmother's house and stole her money. He should not be allowed to come back to your gate.

If he would steal from your grandmother, you could never tell what he would steal from others.

If you were to become his wife, you would have to be prepared to see him go to prison, because he would most likely steal again and get caught.

So I say to you without hesitation, leave this man, but insist that he pay back all the money he has stolen from your grandmother.

Pastor