Lying, cheating husband has 20 kids

Dear Pastor,

I am a Jamaican, a very decent woman. My children are grown. In 2004, I was on vacation and I met this man. He swore on the Bible that he was a good man, and all his friends said that he was. After one year, I got him to America and we got married. My family was not too crazy about him. It is funny, but one's children can see what you may not be able to see.

This man told me that he had five children. I really like them. They have manners to me. Then I was told that he has more children. I had to drag that out of him. He gave me five more names of his children, so that means he had 10 children.

I found out that he might have as many as 20 children. He is still lying. His mother loves me and his sisters and children love me, too. But they all lie to cover for him. They are afraid of him because he is a bully. But I am not afraid of him.

From day one, I told him that if he should make the devil fool him and he hits me, he will not sleep in my house ever again. From we have been together, he has been cheating. He has hurt so many women. He needs to be stopped and be exposed. He is like Russian Roulette with his private.

I.M.

Dear I.M.,

I believe that when you met this man and heard from others that he was a good man, you believed that you could have taken the risk and marry him. He has disappointed you. He should have told you the truth from the very outset.

You gave me his pet name, but I would not publish that. He must have been a special man to the women, because so many got involved with him. You are still trying with this man. But you know you would not get anything out of him.

I hope that he would learn to control himself. He is not going to change overnight, and it is only God who can transform this man, so keep on praying for him.

Pastor