Ungrateful woman doesn’t appreciate me

Dear Pastor,

This is the second time I am writing to you. The first time you gave me a good advice. You probably don't even remember. I am 40 years old now.

I have only one child, but the mother and I are not together. I am in a business with a young woman who is 28 years old. I should say it is her business.

She didn't have any money, so I gave her the money to start the business. I also bought her a car.

Now she has got mixed up with another man and this man is constantly calling her and texting her. I looked into her phone and the man is telling her what he wants to do with her.

I am living in my aunt's house, but I am trying to purchase it. I told her that if she wanted to go, she could go. But if she is staying, she would have to break up with this man.

She said that he is only a friend. She went behind my back and took on the man as a messenger. Sometimes the man drives her car.

The mistake I made is that I bought the car in her name, but it was with my money.

Visit some friends

One Sunday, we were at home and she wanted to go out. I asked her where she was going and she said she wanted to go to visit some friends. I suspected she wanted to go to meet this guy.

I took the car keys and told her she was not going anywhere. You should have heard the bad words that came out of that girl's mouth.

Then she started to talk so loud that two neighbours came and asked her to behave herself. Later in the night, she apologised to me. But I cannot trust her anymore.

When I took the car keys away, she said the car is hers because it is in her name. I want to put the car up for sale, but technically, it is not mine, although she doesn't have any money in it.

This guy is not working with her anymore; I told him not to come back. He is only 20 years old. Pastor, I have made a mistake by going into business with this woman; she is very ungrateful.

J.G

Dear J.G,

Whatever a man does for a woman, he should consider it as a gift. Even if she is ungrateful to you, let her go with it. Don't fight her because these things are just material things.

And whenever she sees the things that you have done for her, they would remind her of your kindness, and seeing them will probably bother her conscience.

Of course it can be argued, but some women don't have any conscience.

The car you bought for your woman might have cost you much money, but don't fight her over it. I wouldn't encourage you to live with her.

It might be wise for you to break up the partnership, but don't fight this woman. Make sure whenever you have bought your house that her name is not on the contract.

Walk away my friend, walk away. You will have a better life without this woman.

Pastor