Caught grandma having sex with a ‘bunna man’

Dear Pastor,

I have been living with my grandparents since I was a little girl. I don't know my father. He got my mother pregnant and left.

My mother is living abroad, but she doesn't know where he is. He has never supported me, so my grandparents have always taken care of me.

I went to one of the best high schools in Kingston. I have nine CSEC passes and I am hoping to become a lawyer.

My grandparents were very strict on me, but, at the same time, they allowed me to go out with my friends, especially the ones that they knew.

SHE IS IN HER 60S

I caught my grandmother having sex with another man. That is not something that I would ever thought that I would see because she is in her 60s.

The man is their friend and he would come around the house. Sometimes my grandfather and he would go out. I call him 'uncle'.

One Sunday evening, I went to hang out with some of my friends at Devon House. I wasn't feeling well, so one of my friends gave me a ride home.

I saw the man's car in the driveway so I knew he was there. I opened the door and went in, only to see my grandmother and this man in bed.

I screamed and shouted out, "Grandma" and the man jumped up and exposed himself before me. I started to cry. I went outside and sat down, then the man left.

I asked my grandmother how she could do such a thing and she told me she did not want to, but she still has sexual feelings and my grandfather is not doing anything.

She said that if I keep my mouth shut, she will give me everything that she has.

When my grandfather came back, he and this man were all over the place again, and it is bothering me. I hate him so much.

Since this incident, my grandmother has increased my weekly allowance by $2,000. I know she is buying my silence. I didn't expect this from her.

This man cannot even look me in the face. I have an account with my grandmother. She went into it and put $25,000 in it and told me not to say anything to my grandpa.

Pastor, I don't know what to do. She used to tell me that I could not bring any guy to the house, but now she has changed, saying that my boyfriend can visit me even when she and my grandfather are not there.

I think she is saying that if I want to have sex with him, I can. What are your comments on this matter?

A.S.

Dear A.S.,

The truth is your grandmother wants much more sex than what your grandfather could give her. She is behaving as if she is still in her prime. You say that she is in her 60s.

She has a big sexual appetite that your grandfather has not been able to 'quench'.

Perhaps he is trying his best, but grandma wants more. What I am trying to say to you is that grandma is a 'rude girl' and this man is also a 'rude boy'.

Regardless of the excuse that she has given, your grandma cannot deny that she is a wicked cheater.

As far as you are concerned now, you can get anything from her. She has increased your allowance without asking, and she has put a solid $25,000 in your account.

Now, she has given you permission to bring your boyfriend at home at anytime.

Perhaps she is trying to tell you that if you want, you guys can have sex. It would be up to you. I hope you won't take that advice.

She is a bad grandma, and what you have seen between her and this man is unforgettable.

You should speak to your grandmother without fear. Tell her that that man should never come back to the house when your grandfather is not there. She will not argue with you.

She has no right to be having sex with this man in your grandfather's house. That is very wrong.

I wish you well as you plan to go to law school. Please let me hear from you again.

Pastor