I ‘tied’ a man, but now he won’t let go

Dear Pastor,

I read your column every day and I have something on my mind to tell you. One day I was walking on the street and a man stopped and offered me a ride.

I told him I did not take rides from strangers. He said, "This stranger will not hurt you." So, he took me straight to work and we exchanged telephone numbers.

Before I left my office that day, I called him and asked if I could get a ride home from him; he said yes, but he was not leaving his office until late.

I told him I would wait for him. I stayed at my office and waited for him and he picked me up and took me home.

On my way, he asked me whether I had a boyfriend. I told him yes, but he was not on the island. I asked him whether he was married or whether he had a girlfriend.

He said he was married, but that didn't mean anything because if I wanted to have something with him, that could happen.

When we got to my yard, I stayed in his car and chatted with him for a while.

I talked to this man every day after that and we developed love for each other. Whenever I wanted money, he gave it to me.

One day he came out and asked why I thought he would be giving me money and not getting anything back.

I told him that if it's sex he wanted, I could give it to him, but it had to be on a Tuesday after work. We went to a hotel and that took place.

He did not give me any money, so I asked him how come. He said he did not know that I was selling it to him. I told him I did not look at it that way, but nothing good is for free.

CHARGED $25,000

This man and I went along for about a year and I decided that I was not going to let him get away from me. So, I checked with an obeah woman and she told me what to do to tie him.

She charged me $25,000. I gave her $10,000. She said it would not work unless I came up with the full amount.

I told the man that I needed $15,000 to do a business. He told me I should give him a week and a half.

In one week, he gave me the money. He did not know I was using the money to tie him.

This man will not leave me alone since I tied him. My boyfriend is back and I told him that I cannot see him as often as before, but he is not backing away.

I went back to the obeah woman and asked her if she could untie him, and she told me that was impossible. She ties people, but she does not untie them.

My conscience is bothering me because sometimes I have sex with my boyfriend at home and have sex with this man too. Please, tell me what to do.

C.K.

Dear C.K.,

You are a very wicked girl. This man is very fortunate that you haven't poisoned him. I don't have any sympathy for you.

This obeah woman fooled you and you believed her. You did her nastiness to try to tie this man, and now that you want to break up the relationship, you are finding it difficult to do so.

I don't believe that what you did has tied this man to you. I really don't believe in that nonsense.

But what you have written shows that many of you young women will do any nastiness to try to hold men.

The obeah woman says that she ties people, but she doesn't untie them. So you are on your own.

If you really love your man, you have to learn that you cannot be greedy and you should be satisfied with having one man and not going to other men because you need money from them. Imagine, you took money from this man to go to an obeah woman to have her tie him to you, using his own money. You are a good-for-nothing woman.

Pastor