Don’t know which guy to choose

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 years old and I have two guys who are interested in me. I love them both. Both of them went to the same high school with me.

One of them is tall and is of a very light complexion. The other one is short, dark-skinned but very brilliant. He is a good football player and all the girls like him.

The light-complexioned guy doesn't talk much, and he doesn't have many friends. He calls me every day. He tells me that I am his wife. He asked me recently about the other guy.

I told him we should talk about ourselves and not the other guy. He said that he would like to introduce me to his people, but if I have the other guy in my life, he would stay away.

The short guy likes to boast and he wants to boss me around. He never has money on him. Every time I do a little work, I must give him money.

He has never bought me anything, not even for my birthday. But I like the one who is short because he is sociable. On the other hand, the tall guy will talk to you if you are in his class, so to speak.

ECONOMIC BACKGROUNDS

His parents are middle-class people. He has never asked me for sex, but my short friend, the football player, is always telling me that he is tired of waiting. I told him that I am not ready to have sex with him because I don't trust him.

He has too many girlfriends. But there is something about him that makes me love him. Also, I wouldn't have to worry about whether his parents would accept me because they are poor, and I come from a poor background as well.

The tall and handsome guy bought me a lovely watch for my birthday, which was last December, and a lovely pants and shirt for us to go out on New Year's Eve. Everybody was staring at me. He was proud of me and I was proud to be in his arms.

He is a good dancer. I asked him if he was not jealous when I was dancing with the guys and he said no because he trusts me. I don't want to make any mistake, Pastor, so please help me to make a decision. I am attending a teachers' college.

D.W.

Dear D.W.,

I don't understand why you are having difficulty in deciding which one of these guys you should go steady with. I don't doubt that you love the both of them, but you would love one more than the other. So, let me ask you this question.

Which of these men do you love more? Is it the guy who is a sportsman or is it the one who does not talk a lot and is of light complexion?

The guy who loves sports loves to spend your money and he has never given you anything. The other man buys you gifts but you are not sure that his parents would accept you because of your background.

So, I ask you the question again, which one of these guys do you love more? And I would say to you, go for the one you love more.

Pastor