Feel like I’ve failed God

Dear Pastor,

I am a 26-year-old man. I am very ambitious and I am in my final year of university. I am currently living with a guilt; I feel I have failed God. My heart is broken.

I promised God I will never fail him again. I got baptised and I gave my life over to God. I felt that I have given everyone a chance, except God.

I am currently in a relationship and I feel blessed. But almost every day this girl and I argue. I am getting so tired of arguing with her.

I am the type of guy who doesn't believe in arguing all the time; I prefer to be alone. I really love the lady but she does not respect my feelings or even think about how I feel about certain things. It is as if I should just suck it up all the time.

The heaviest thing that weighs on my shoulders is that I feel I haven't given God a chance. What is going on between this girl and myself is going to make me change and walk away from her and stop caring for her. I try talking to her but it seems as if I am making things harder so I don't know what to do and I don't want the worst to come.

S.W.

Dear S.W.,

I find it very difficult to understand what you are trying to say. You seemed to be very confused. If I misunderstand you, please forgive me.

It seems to me that you are trying to say that you got into some sort of trouble and you are trying to turn your life around. So you got baptised.

However, you find it difficult to live in peace with your girlfriend. But what I suggest that you do is to learn to live in peace with this young woman.

Perhaps the both of you should not be together. She seems to be very miserable and you cannot live with her. You don't seem as if you are ready to be living with a woman so both of you should not be together.

Pastor