I’m having sex with my helper

Dear Pastor,

I am a 14-year-old boy and I live with my parents. I have one sister who is older than I am. But since early last year she left for college.

So I am alone with my parents. My father and I get along very well. He is proud of me and my mother is also proud of me. My father would give me anything I want because I am bright.

Both of my parents are very busy people. We have a helper. She has been with us for many years. Sometimes she would tease me when I try to close the door when I am in the bedroom alone or only in my briefs. She would tell me that she used to bathe me when I was a child so I don't have anything that she can't see. One day she told me that she even knew when I started to be a man. One day I was lying down on my bed and I fell asleep and I felt somebody touching my private part. When I woke up, it was the helper.

I asked her what she was doing and she said that she was trying to make me a man. She held on to my penis and was playing with it and it felt good.

I did not resist any more and she told me what to do. That was my first experience in sex. That has happened many times after and my parents don't suspect anything.

Sometimes when my parents are not there, she would pass me and whisper to me asking if I wanted it tonight. I want to know what I should do.

I asked her if she was not afraid that I might get her pregnant and she said that she was not. This woman is 40 years old. The first couple times we had sex I was afraid.

Now I am not fearful any more. I told her that my parents won't throw me out but they would fire her if I told them she was fooling around with me.

B.M.

Dear B.M.,

I thank you for your letter. I have been told by many young men that their first sexual experience was with their parents' helpers. Some parents are very naive.

They fail to understand that it is not all helpers should be trusted with their male children, especially those helpers who live in and hardly go home.

They expose themselves to these young male children, watch adult movies with them, and do things that arouse these young boys and suggest to them that they can have sex with them and nothing will happen.

Your helper told you that you did not need any privacy because she has known you from the time you were a young child and she had to bathe you. So you did not have to hide from her.

It is unfortunate that you did not report her to your parents. If you had, your parents would have believed you. Right now the helper needs to be fired. The question your parents might ask you is why you did not report it earlier.

I believe I know the answer to that question. You would not tell your parents the truth because I believe you liked what the helper was doing to you so you kept quiet about it.

The helper knew that you liked the fun. But young man, this helper is going to take your desire for study away. When you should be beating the books she would want you to be sexually involved with her.

She is a bad influence on your life. Spend your time in the books, and when you are in your room, please lock the door. Keep away from this helper.

Pastor.